A Ritual for Comfort
This week, leading up to the New Moon in Gemini has been intense. It seems we have chaos on all levels but there is also inner growth energy happening. This latter change is what I want to focus on while we experience this New Moon. I also want to challenge the pressure around Moon work, ritual work and magic in general. Not every Moon will be personally powerful, not every Ritual may be worth sharing and not every dream will manifest. It’s okay to not feel every moon. It’s okay to forget about Rituals sometimes and it’s okay to have some magic work that simply fails. It’s good to remember that not everything is a super, life-changing, Big Magic-Making event. We are all different and take different energies from celestial and life events.
So this week, let’s celebrate our differences and work with our own unique way of handling Slow Magic. Underneath all the manic chatter and click-bait wording around what’s happening, is our own story, our own unfolding and our personal journeys. I sometimes forget this when I get caught up in world events that are being played out in front of us every second of every day. I forget that my own personal journey is still happening, and that sometimes it has down weeks. This actually a good thing. This means I can rest my spirit and body while the Universe helps prepare me for my next adventure. So just because it’s a ‘Super Moon’, it doesn’t mean it’s a week where it’s all or nothing for you. It’s not the best moon for everyone, it all depends on what stage of the journey you are on.
So let’s take this week and think about how we are unfolding and traveling along our path. What small scale lessons are being offered to you? What is changing in your world? What you discovering about yourself? Because these smaller, intimate scale lessons are truly what matters at the end of the day. So much is happening outside of our control, that inside we can become isolated and ignored by our own minds.
This week has presented a lot of lessons involving my emotional life and love life. It’s been a beautiful week of wrapping up old thoughts and desires and realizing that I am done with them. It’s been lovely. Among other things, I let go (emotionally) of a couple of men that I realized were not what I thought they were. Somehow through my rose-colored glasses, I saw these men differently than how they truly are. No one did anything awful nor were these endings dramatic. In reality, these lessons took place when I was sitting on my porch, all alone while drinking a cup of tea. These lessons occurred when I allowed myself to slow down enough that I was in my own company and open to loving myself enough to realize that what I want matters. I let go of the parts of these men that fit into a story line I thought I wanted. I let go of the desire for these men to be anything but who they truly are. In turn, this allowed me to realize that these men were not the love story I want to tell myself or the world. These were not the men I desire to share my precious time with. These men were not what my heart and spirit need. These men are still lovely and I truly adore each of them. But they are not the love story I want to tell.
I’m using this New Moon to sit with the gentle unfolding of my life. Nothing urgent is happening in my small world. I’m paying attention and helping where I can for others but I’m also working on healing my body and that requires lower stress levels. I’m using this New Moon to set the intention of gentle growth over the rest of the year. I desire life changes but no longer have the desire for instant gratification desire that has proven to be an impossible demand. Not every Moon will affect me, not every change I experience is huge, not every desire of mine will manifest. This is for a reason. The Universe keeps some secrets. We can’t control everything, nor should we want too. The moon’s energy changes daily, some hours we feel it, some hours we do not. We can’t waste our time monitoring every single change the moon makes or we will never recognize our own changes.
A Ritual for Finding Comfort
Let’s use this moon to set an intention to slow down over the next few months. Let’s go inside of our desires and work with them in a deep way. Let’s slow down so we can notice the pollen on the beak of the hummingbird that visits. Let’s slow down so we can enjoy our time with each other and not ignore the person in front of you for a screen filled with images you never see in person. Let’s share the emotional journey with each other so none of us feel so isolated and exhausted from the mask we have been wearing for way too long. Why not call that friend who has been sick to ask how they are, or send a text to your new mom friend that is overwhelmed, leave flowers on the porch of someone you love just because you thought they might enjoy the colors. Make dinner for people and talk about all the small things in your life that excite you. Let’s experience the color of new sage bush, the bus ride where you met a kind stranger, or (and) the cup of coffee at the new independent coffee shop that you drank while walking with a good friend. Let’s talk about the details and emotions that are unique to our journey and make us who we are. You have friends that want to hear these stories and you have people in your life that you want to hear these stories from. Slow Magic is not the time for isolation. Slow Magic is the time to celebrate these real changes that are happening in our emotional worlds.
If you were to write a story of your life, one that you would want the world to read; your love story or your favorite adventure, what would this story be? What would the theme be, or the lessons learned? What would it smell like, what would the colors be or what would it taste like? If this story hasn’t happened yet, what would you like it to look like? Every time we set an intention, we have no idea how it will unfold so let’s use this New Moon to play with this idea of unfolding, and how we can notice this unfolding while living our lives?
You may notice that our intentions lately have been very large, vague and very personal. I hope that you can see we need to write large and then notice the small details as we live our own stories. My hope is that as I leave things open in my Rituals, you will leave them open in your lives, all of which aids the Universe in guiding us back to center. You will read about the next few months being astrologically big but I am challenging this notion by saying, don’t fight what’s happening in the Universe, but know that our lives happen in a unique and beautiful way. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking your stories needs to be any different than they naturally occur in your world. Don’t miss the slow down times you need to recharge just because someone tells you it will be an intense week. Let your personal story be in charge and look for inspiration where you see it.