Why Are We So Hard On Ourselves?
While Venus is retreating from her retrograde, and we remain in the shadows of her work, we are starting to integrate her lessons. We still have several other planets in retrograde as we can see by the world events of last week. Corporations and public figures were burned badly by these retrogrades and for good reason. We are being asked by the Universe for some serious truth-telling and heart-opening energy.
On a personal level, we are being asked to ponder this major question; “Why are we so hard on ourselves?” This is especially important when it comes to working with transformation and manifesting. For something new to be created, something else must leave. If we take this process too personally, we might freeze with self-doubt and feelings of failure. The Universe wants to gently remind us that faith and self-love are two of the most important ingredients to work with while manifesting dreams.
This energy has shown up as I realize that after manifesting a large dream last year, it is no longer in line with who I have become. This dream was 10 years in the making and when I set it, Ritual Coaching was not yet fully formed. As I have come to understand, this dream I managed to make come true is no longer what I desire, I have been grappling with fear and self-blame. What is wrong with me that I can’t be happy or enjoy what I manifested? Why can’t I settle for this dream?
As I struggle with these questions, I remembered that when I set this intention, I did so in fear. I set it at time when I thought my security depended on a force outside of myself. As I have evolved in my life and have grown in my confidence, I now realize that this intention is doing more to hold me back than help me move forward. It feels uncomfortable to me now because it is not aligned with what I am becoming; and that is all part of the process. Instead of being so hard on myself, I need to step back and reframe things. I literally manifested one of my largest dreams. The Universe helped to bring me to this place where it is challenging me to question a few core beliefs about myself; the idea that I am not worthy of success or kindness when it comes to my own life. I can be there for others and clients, but I am so hard on myself to the point where I am crippled.
So this week let’s celebrate what we have manifested in our lives up to this point and let’s give ourselves permission to change our minds in a positive way. It’s natural to manifest a dream and then realize you have evolved beyond that dream. It’s natural for us to want to move to a more authentic life, that is what the Universe is asking of us.
Ritual for Celebrating and Manifesting Self-love
Let’s take a nice hot bath this week with some Rose oil if you have it. I want us to honor Venus’ return home. As you are in the bath start to think about all the times you have manifested things. Good and not so good. We want to start to acknowledge that our thoughts and energy really do matter in our lives. Once you are done with your bath, take out your journal. Write down all the times you have successfully manifested dreams. Please do not spend too much energy on the times where you manifested negative things into your life. We just want to accept that we have the ability to manifest all levels of dreams. This will help to keep us focused on the positive. Now think about what you are trying to manifest now. Were these intentions set out of fear or out of a place of self-love and confidence? Did you dream big enough when you set this intention or did you unknowingly put a limit on your dream? Work with your current intentions to add more self-love to them, more confidence. After writing down all the places you have manifested things into your life, you will hopefully see that you are powerful. So let’s take this skill and keep moving towards a more authentic life where we will be at peace. What does a peaceful and content life look like for you? Are you living by the beach and running your own shop? Do you have a high-powered corporate career that includes international travel and excitement? Are you living in the suburbs, being a parent to a gang of kids that make you laugh and smile? Are you writing daily? Are you creating art? Are you helping other people and finding more joy in the world? Write all the details down of this life and compare it with your intention list. Does anything need to change? To be taken away? To be added?
I have come to realize that I want to help people via my writing, my coaching and my products. I want to support people as they follow their dreams. I want to be the cheerleader that believes in them and can witness what it is they are making of their dreams. Because of this core desire, I have come to realize that my life may need to change a bit. Things that used to make me happy are no longer as potent as watching people transform and manifest their dreams. So this week I will be setting new intentions to follow down the path of doing Ritual Coaching full time. It’s exciting, a little scary and something that feels very authentic to me.
How can you stop being so hard on yourself and start living a more authentic life? This is what we are working on.