Loving the Authentic and Radical Self-Love Lessons
The end of 2016 did not disappoint me. Up until the very last day, past the New Moon, I was having moments of loving the authentic and/or facing radical lessons. When I wrote this ritual I kept using the words ‘teacher’ and ‘lessons’ but those words didn’t feel right. As I ventured out into my two writing/adventure days, what I realized was these moments were all about loving my authentic self, and experiencing radical lessons in self-love. These magically coincided with questions that that clients were coming to me with and that perfectly aligned with what 2017 is going to be all about.
Loving the Authentic
This week I had two extreme instances where I got to practice loving the authentic side of me. One was almost heart breaking and one was easy. Both were necessary since they are both sides of myself I have trouble embracing.
The week started off with me doing and saying things I am not proud of. It was not my finest moment. I accidently showed a side of myself that very few see. I am not happy about what happened but I also realized that I must love this side of myself. It’s the only way through this lesson. So here I am declaring that there is a part of me that panics, that likes to make assumptions at times and enjoys a dynamic with my best friend where she has to talk me down off the ledge on a regular basis. However, when the wrong party is witness to these exchanges, it’s not a good feeling. The only way through this mistake is to let go. It’s part of who I am. It’s ok.
The week ended with lunch with a special friend, My M.B. After lunch, he stood in front of me and said “Why don’t you write a ritual just for yourself?” Why not even title it ‘Just for me’?” At first I resisted this idea. But after we parted I realized this is the first person in my life to give me permission to be selfish. The first one that wants me to put my needs up front so I can grow and become a better person. He’s the friend that makes me feel like I sparkle. In many ways he is my muse, someone that really sees ME. I consider him the inspiration for my 2017 motto; Loving the Authentic. Because this individual can see all parts of me and smile.
This week I am going to keep working on loving the authentic in me. Loving the good and the not-so-good but working on it. I am going to be ok with mistakes and keep moving forward. And I am going to start seeing myself through the eyes of the person that stopped my world for a moment with two questions. Two questions that have continued to inspire me for days.
Just for Me
If you could write a ritual just for yourself around the idea of loving the authentic side of you, what would it look like? What would the experience consist of? What would you list as the wonderful parts of you that you want to share for 2017?
My ritual consists of French music, good champagne, fresh apples and a hot magical salt bath. First I will take a long walk in the dark evening hours to think about all the parts of myself I want to share in 2017. How I want to soften my heart and let people in. I will write in my journal about how I am growing and expanding in my magic and my writing. I will write about how I forgive myself for my human magical moments and how grateful I am for my loving and magical moments. Then I will take a bath to let all the energy go and get grounded. I also intend to use a bit of fire magic this week as well because I am ready for some fire energy. I am going to write Loving the Authentic on a piece of paper and burn it. I am ready to see myself sparkle. And, as with all rituals, I will thank the Universe for listening and helping. It’s going to be a year where we all open up a little more, sparkle more, and love more.
What does your ritual look like? How can you honor loving your authentic parts? What sounds like the most delicious day/evening/weekend to you?